Two-time best-selling author, professional speaker, experienced educator, and parent Jeanie Cisco-Meth shares her scientifically proven system for improving communication and decreasing conflict. She has written articles for many magazines, been quoted in Forbes, and is a contributor for TheBlaze. She has been a guest on radio stations across the country and locally on KSL. She has been seen on television on ABC4, Free Speech TV, and others. As a high school educator for more than 17 years, she witnessed firsthand what bullying can do to a person, a family, and a community. Her solution was to design a program to end bullying. Bully Proofing You is the result of that effort. Jeanie had many learning disabilities and differences growing up that made her a target for bullies. When she entered school, the labeling began. She dyslexia, couldn’t speak well, was legally blind, was six feet tall, had survived cancer, and more! At one point, she remembers sitting with her parents in a classroom listening to teachers predict her dismal future. Jeanie and her parents had different ideas. They knew she would find a way to succeed. When Jeanie entered high school, she refused to let others determine her future. She sought the tools to help her graduate high school and then college, something very few people thought she could or would be able to do. Jeanie has found either success or a lesson in everything she has ever tried to accomplish. She loves teaching people who want to improve their lives and make a difference. She now teaches her special techniques on overcoming adversity to all types of audiences. Her high energy educational program has helped people improve communication and productivity and decrease conflicts. Her expertise and knowledge have helped many overcome obstacles and challenges in their lives. Jeanie finds pleasure watching people change their lives by implementing the lessons learned from her program. Her trainings are comprehensive. The parents, teens, or staff of your organization are trained to make sure that lasting change takes place. “As you increase your personal value others are more valuable.” Jeanie Cisco-Meth. How do you end conflict? Find out today by contacting Jeanie Cisco-Meth.
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So many amazing gems from this episode. Jeanie is an amazing person, full of love and energy! The first step to bully-proofing your kids, is to bully-proof yourself. You can teach them that they can choose what messages to believe. Parents model how to cope with their imperfections by accepting them, celebrating them, enjoying them! We disrupt our habits of negative thoughts by keeping a thought journal and recording your thoughts on the hour. When you notice your negative thoughts, you can change them. You may notice your child is being bullied if they start acting out with violence and anger. If you notice they are listening to violent music or watching violent media, that could be another clue. From this episode:
Jeanie likes this tool from "Love and logic"
: Say, “Aren’t you glad I don’t believe that?!” when children come and tell us they heard a disparaging message. “You are special” by Max Lucado
- you have a choice whether to believe those messages others are telling you about you. Watch the video I made reading the book here
! Tony Robbins pattern interrupt
Jeanie says, "Hurt people hurt people!" What a way to teach empathy and realize that people who are hurting do things to hurt others. My mom told me when I was little that people who are a problem have a problem. That made a big impact on me when I was young and helped me realize that I don't know what is going on in someone else's life that is causing them to think that hurting someone is OK. I also loved Jeanie's insight into recognizing that when we are hurt, and afraid, we aren't thinking, so we should do things that get us to think! Ask a question that starts the process of thinking and bringing the brain out of survival mode - fight or flight. Mindfulness is a good practice in that regard. Natural tendency to look for fault, start looking for positive things. Jeanie gives a great tip that keeps you from starting out with a negative thought. When you come home and you see your kids have trashed the house, our tendency is to grumble and start chastising the kids. Instead, get excited that you're home and get to see your kids. "Collect them," a term I learned from "Hold On To Your Kids" by Gordon Neufeld, to bring them in, and get them to make eye contact, nod, and smile. Then say, while you're here, will you help me clean up your backpacks? Take notes to track your thoughts: how many are negative and how many are positive. Listen to your kids’ music to gauge their emotions. Pay attention to their media. This is a good indicator whether they allow or tolerate violence in their space. "Awaken the Giant Within" by Tony Robbins “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill Jim Rohn Denis Waitley Harv Eker Bridget Cook Connect with Jeanie http://www.jeanieciscometh.com http://bullyproofingyou.com Instagram YouTube Twitter Facebook "Bully Proofing You: Improving Confidence And Personal Value From The Inside Out"
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, and she will send you the workbook for FREE! Just mention you heard her on my episode and she will send it to you! That's a $20 value! You can also pre-order her new book, "Taming the Bully Between Your Ears"
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