So a few years ago, I had a chance participate in a situation. Situation, situations, I cant call it a relationship because of my behavior and her behavior not really resembling any behaviors of a successful relationship.? The ship just sailed away from the relation.. We both didn’t put in the work to call it a relationship. Even though we was together , i can vividly remember times of being the loneliest ever in my life.
I remember trying to find ways to sabotage our situation just to separate myself from her, so I would not have to be responsible and do what’s right by her in the situation . I found ways to listen to bad advice....
How am I going to reach out to a person who has never been in a relationship on how to handle my intimate dealings with her from people who lack the experience to inform me properly . I found ways to make poor excuses of why she might not be the one. Even as I think about my actions, i want to say sorry for wasting so much of her time . It’s almost criminal but definitely malicious when i look at the whole picture of how a relationships suppose to be.
So anyways, she was Great woman, smart, intelligent, educated ? Hard working . Even the sex was good. She had her own car, owned a condo with a job making at least 65,000 a year. I won’t say her job title , but just know she was in A corporate office , with plenty of floors and plenty of opportunities to communicate with people across the world. Even my mom and grandma liked her.
I could go on and on about how perfect of a woman she was, but if she was that perfect why didn’t I choose to be with her forever. Why didn’t I choose to do what it take to keep her close in my life. Why would i make the mistake and lust over other women who would never bring as much value to my life. Why would i waste so much time trying to figure out if she the one. If she the one, why is it still a debate in my brain. I get the question daily of why won’t a man fully commit . I’m willing to spill the beans on one condition , if those listening are willing to reflect upon their flaws.
I’ll give you a moment .........
10 reason why a man won’t commit.....
In no way shape or form is this design to attack the character of any man or woman trying to figure out their through relationships. It’s no book out here, so we must continue learn, discuss, and develop dialogue to get this right .
1) He’s Not Over His Ex
Well, of course he says he’s completely over his ex. There’s even a chance he believed it himself too – and that it took getting involved with another woman for him to realize he wasn’t. While it’s difficult to admit to yourself – and to each other – that you could be his rebound girl, it’s best to discover the truth as early as possible. Look for signs of his lingering feelings – especially if an unusually short amount of time has passed between that relationship and yours. The number one sign: a fridge-mounted or framed photo of his ex that has yet to make it to the back of the drawer.
2) He Had a Bad Experience with his Ex
If he’s still bearing the scars from a bad breakup, chances are that he’s not ready to leap into another one. Depending on how badly that relationship ended, it could take him some time to realize that you’re not going to cause the same damage. Right now, he may be looking for signs that it’s all going to go to hell in a handbasket – and, of course, the more he looks, the more he’ll find. It’ll take a fair degree of patience on your side to get beyond this.
3) There’s Someone Else in the Picture
If you’ve not officially declared yourselves “exclusive” or if your boyfriend has a history as a double-dater, he could be sidetracked by other opportunities. Some men like to keep their options up in the air for as long as possible before making a decision, and unfortunately, you could be the unwitting victim. Watch out for the obvious signs – mysterious schedules, dubious stories, regular periods when he is incommunicado – and if you’re still concerned, ask him straight out.
4) He’s Totally Happy with His Life
Despite dipping their toes into the dating pool, some men actually don’t want a girlfriend. Sure, he may enjoy the companionship and those other relationship benefits, but only as an adjunct to the rest of his life. If his priorities are his friends, his hobbies or even his basic “me” time, he’s only going to have a little extra room for the joy and wonder of you − which is fair enough, unless you’re wanting a more central position in your partner’s life. If you do, you may have to look elsewhere.
5) It’s All About the Money
Money can be an issue in many relationships, but it can also stop a man from committing to a relationship in the first place. Maybe his focus is on work and he wants to become more established and earn a decent wage − maybe own his own home too − before channeling his energy and time into a relationship. Or perhaps he’s seen firsthand how a divorce can destroy a man’s financial standing, and he’s just not ready to take that risk. In the first case, he’ll need to know that you understand his ambitions and that you won’t get in the way; in the second, offering a prenuptial agreement (while it may not sound romantic) could put his mind at rest.