Society's definition of success - an impressive career, status, and wealth - can be a hollow victory. Yu Dan Shi knows this all too well. Yu Dan Shi started from a childhood in an impoverished town in China and spent many years chasing endless goals and the appearance of success. It came at a substantial personal cost: a punishing workload while raising a family, a daily battle devoid of meaning, failing health and misery. Yu Dan Shi explores the conflict faced by high achievers and guides us through practical steps to make real and sustainable changes to our lives to bring us fulfilment.
When people ask Yu Dan what she does, how does Yu Dan like to reply?
Born in an impoverished village in China, what was the dream?
How much of Yu Dan's dream was driven by the expectation of her parents?
Yu Dan was miserable, but that made her work harder. What part of us says to ignore the misery?
How did Yu Dan break the addiction to relentless ambition?
Yu Dan had a perfect life, ticked every box, but which box did Yu Dan not tick?
When Yu Dan got sick in 2008, she had a conversation with herself and said she felt regret. What did she regret?
How did Yu Dan measure success back then?
The illness was caused entirely by internal stress. Did Yu Dan know she was suffering from chronic stress?
How do you know if you are honest with yourself?
What was the reaction from her parents when she made a change?
How does Yu Dan keep from falling into the comparison trap?
What gives us true career fulfilment?
How does Yu Dan describe her identity today? What identity does she want to impart on her children?
Should we be generalists or specialists?
Where does Yu Dan get her external validation today?
What's the ambition condition?
What steps can a listener take to find their inner strengths?
What advice would have Yu Dan given herself ten years ago?
What brings Yu Dan pride today?