TPJ 41: Why Kids Lie

Do your children lie to you? Or if they’re too young, are you worried they will in the future? I get questions about lying quite often, and in this episode we’re going to talk about why children lie and what we can do about it. 

[4:13] Lying is a natural part of a child’s development.  

[5:45] Younger kids sometimes don’t differentiate between reality and their imagination.

[8:04] They start using their imagination to attempt to alter reality.

[9:27] They start to lie because they’re aware of what we want to hear or to avoid trouble. 

[14:58] Let’s try to be less offended and angry when our children lie. It’s part of growing up and it’s going to happen. 

[16:11] We really don’t value the truth as much as we say or think we do. We lie to ourselves and others frequently. 

[18:55] We even lie to our children. 

[22:03] We often lie to protect ourselves.

[22:37] Our kids lie to us because they think we can't handle the truth. 

[23:25] We need to model honesty.  

[25:22] Let’s show our kids that we value honesty over smooth sailing (and keep calm when they tell us the truth). 

[26:03] When they do lie, it’s important to guide them back to honesty without shaming and punishing them. 

[30:56] There’s a powerful link between truth and trust, and it goes both ways (our trust in them, and their trust in us). 

[34:25] We can respond playfully and calmly when we catch our children lying. 

This will set a foundation for connection with our kids, creating trustworthy and truthful relationships for years to come. 

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