18: Attachment is critical. With Karen Young

Do you ever wonder if you’re being too fearful and not letting your children explore? Or maybe you wonder if you're giving too much independence?  Listen in to find out what the right balance might be. 

In this third episode with the lovely Karen Young, we focused on better understanding attachment in building strong relationships with our children. 

Human babies are wired to attach to one main big person.  It is the pathway to safety to help them back to calm. Attachment is like a big rubber band. A safe foundation to grow from, reliable and safe, letting children know the world is ok to explore. Being careful not to hold them too close, too much of the time when we don’t need to.  Attachment is like an orientation table.  The difference between psychological and physical attachment. The more connected we are the more influence we have.  Everything happens through psychological attachment.  Children need to see our eyes light up when they enter the room.  The goal of attachment is feeling our presence even when we are absent.  Things to Remember:

“We do not get to control the lessons our children need to learn. “ - Karen Young

“Children will make mistakes because they have to.”  - Karen Young

“We are the arms that hold the world steady when it feels unsafe. We are also the arms that lift them up to full flight. We are both.”- Karen Young

“Attachment is what lets us do our job as parents.” - Karen Young

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