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35 The Role of Male Allies in Creating Cultures of Inclusion and Belonging
When it comes to raising the voices, power, and social influence of marginalized groups, people of color, women-identifying, and communities experiencing discrimination and exclusion, men are needed as allies in order to create a workplace and a world that works for all of us. During this powerful panel discussion with male allies, you will learn how to challenge, enroll, and take inspired action at work to support the global shift toward greater justice, equity, inclusion, and belonging.
I’m joined today by four male allies who are calling in, challenging and using their voice, social capital and influence to support women, people of color, LGBTQ+ folks and marginalized identities. The panel includes Founder and CEO of Hummingbird Humanity Brian McComak; Head of Learning & Development at ReadySet Willie Jackson; Vice President Intel Corporation Operations General Manager Corporate Services Americas Manufacturing Operations Vince Gugliemetti and LinkedIn Principal Learning and Development Partner Kyle Grubman. Together we delve into the critical importance of showing up, speaking out, and championing the change that we need to see in the workplace and the world.
Key Takeaways:
[1:46] Carley reflects on the critical importance of male allies in creating a culture of inclusion and belonging.
[18:48] An introduction of each of the all-male panelists who embody the conscious and inclusive way of leading at work and in the world.
[27:23] Carley shares the statistics and experiences that have brought the topic of male allyship to central importance to her.
[35:12] Why is it so hard to speak up in a professional environment? Carley speaks to the factors that can prevent voices from speaking out and the covering that occurs in response to fear and shame lurking in the workplace.
[38:22] What is male allyship and how is it different from simply being an ally? Vince reflects on his responsibility to educate himself as a male ally and Willie shares his definition of male allyship as both a marginalized and privileged male.
[43:00] Kyle shares his desire to celebrate and champion women, the importance of validating others and also of challenging others to give up their privilege so that the real work can happen.
[45:58] Brian reflects on the practice of allyship and the importance of amplifying the voices of others and how it shapes how all groups of people can experience the world.
[47:23] The value of cultivating the inner game and reflecting it on the outside as a male ally in the workplace starts with amplifying all voices by creating opportunities for more people, taking up less space and offering credit to others.
[56:55] Overcoming the sociocultural obstacles of the ‘man box’ starts with challenging the way that men are expected to show up in the world and removing yourself from spaces that don’t support your intentions.
[1:01:25] Love needs to be the driving emotion at the core of every action we take, regardless of gender.
[1:06:28] Curiosity can be harnessed to build connections and increase understanding. Perspectives from the LGBTQ+ and other URMs offer insights into how we can each show up as ourselves.
[1:09:40] Practical ways that everyone can show up as their true self in order to grant permission to others to do the same.
[1:15:56] Opportunities to get involved as an ally reveal blind spots, challenges long-held traditions and impacts lasting change.
[1:18:18] How can leaders increase their vulnerability and take greater personal responsibility for how their actions impact others.
[1:23:11] What steps does an inclusive leader take when someone needs to hear feedback on how their behavior is negatively impacting others?
[1:26:25] How can the next generation be raised to be effective allies with less of a learning curve than we are currently facing?
[1:30:08] Carley offers simple actions that will elevate the momentum of male allies and details the guests and topics of upcoming panel discussions.
Resources:
Four Sigmatic — use discount code SHINE for 15% off
Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence by Tanya Selvaratnam
