Becky and Tiffany sit down with special guests, Ali and Anarie, to share their thoughts on dating with betrayal trauma. They discuss how to prepare to date, and agree that it’s helpful to learn to be okay with being alone and not using dating in an attempt to fill a void. Although it can be difficult to begin dating again, Ali shares how she knows God will catch her and hold her when things get painful. Dating is really about getting to know ourselves. The women share how giving ourselves and the ones we date a lot of grace is vital, as is remembering that even though we aren’t perfect, we still deserve love. Tiffany shares that dating again is challenging her belief system, but she has been able to see the power of the atonement in the lives of those she dates. Triggers, grief, and loneliness can resurface during dating with betrayal trauma and after divorce, but so does an awareness of our need for the Savior. In addition to practical tips for online dating, Anarie cautions us to avoid being so worried about what could go wrong that we don’t see all that could go right. Tiffany, Ali, and Anarie explain that honesty with ourselves and others is key, as is connecting with our safe people.
