#82 - What is Intimacy?

Whenever you hear the word ‘intimacy’, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Well, for many, this word has always been associated with any sexual act. However, it’s important to know that it’s more than that. Intimacy is more than just physical affection. It’s about the connection that we have with the people close to our hearts. 

Intimacy happens when two individuals are willing to be vulnerable in exposing their true selves without reservation and pretension to each other. Not only that, it lets you be more open and free to tell the deepest, darkest secrets that you have, or to share the things you are passionate about because you feel safe with that person.

Intimacy is vital for every relationship to last long. So in this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about intimacy and how you can find and achieve it whether you’re single, married, or even create intimacy within yourself. 

By listening to this episode, you can create a sense of intimacy that’s more genuine, grounded, real, and long-term, whatever your love language is. Andrew and Benjy share how they experienced intimacy in their lives, how they built a strong foundation of intimacy with their wives, and how they created a sense of confidence through intimacy with themselves.

Get on board to learn more about intimacy, emotions, connection, and the five languages of love.

Intimacy is the result, not the process. [00:26] Sex is a means to the ultimate end [1:22] Finding ways to be intimate [6:23] Porn is a temporary fill to that connection. [8:30] Reasons why people don’t pursue real intimacy [11:36] The idea of individual perfection [13:54] Intimacy is predicated on trust. [16:09] The five love languages are a helpful framework [18:05] Being reliant on superficial ways of feeling loved [20:50] How intimacy with yourself impact your relationships [24:00] Dealing with your negative emotions [30:45] Recognizing an emotion and dealing with it in a productive way [33:25] Intimacy requires presence and presence requires effort [37:24]

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