Here are 4 types of fear that often stop people from doing that next step.
Number 1 - Is the Fear of ruin - If I don’t get this correct it is going to ruin my life forever. Or I could make a fool of myself. I could ruin my reputation or ruin this relationship. Many times, those are onetime events that we move on from. By pushing through these fears, we learn how to deal with it and process it. This allows us to grow and to deal with the next challenge differently, don’t focus on what you have allowed to be a huge disaster in your mind.
Number 2 is Rejection - She won’t love me, they will laugh at me, they will think I’m stupid, that’s ok. You don’t need their permission to grow and succeed. We have all been rejected but eventually it won’t matter. We move on and look back and it has no effect on what you do today when you choose to not let it. It is our choice to form our lives and some people will get it and some won’t. That’s ok, live the life that you envision and that you want.
The third type of fear is Regret – Man if I do this, I will regret it for the rest of my life. Or if I don’t do this, I will always regret this decision. Realize that none of us can predict forever. You may end up regretting the decision for a short time, but just maybe it ends up being the best decision you ever made and takes you to the next level or finds the love of your life. If you hadn’t taken that step you would be stuck and never moving forward. You hear people say they are in a rut. That is because they are so afraid of making the wrong choices or decisions that they don’t make any of them, and they go nowhere, or worse they go backwards. We must have regrets to learn. We can always change our behaviors and learn from what brought us the regret, so that we make better decisions next time.
The last one is Responsibility – Maybe you think you can't handle or do something perfect, so you throw up your hands and say, can’t do it. But to achieve our dreams takes struggle and work and with that comes responsibility. Ask yourself. Do I move forward, move backward, or remain in my current area? You are good enough today to try. You may need more experience, more tools or people. You may not have it perfect but step off the ledge and try and you will figure it out. But next time it will be better, and then the next time it will be even better. What you will learn is that the next time it is that much easier, and you will be looking for the next level.