Becky and Tiffany sit down with Beckie Hennessy, LCSW, to discuss the basics of boundaries. In essence, boundaries are simply what’s okay and what’s not okay for you. Beckie explains that boundaries are not telling someone else what they can or cannot do, nor are they to control, punish, influence the way someone feels, or hurt someone. In this episode, Beckie offers some sample narratives to use to change lists of rules into loving boundaries. The hosts remind us that boundaries are about establishing safety. As Beckie says, “When your boundary is respected, it’s like pouring Miracle Gro on connection and trust.” She reminds us that setting boundaries isn’t “mean” if our intention is to show up in compassion. It’s normal for boundaries to evolve over time, but there are some that are non-negotiable. Beckie’s mantra is: “I don’t set boundaries for them. I set boundaries for me.”
