Marni and Chris hunker down in the Den to talk about the dating lessons learned from following the recent Bachelor episode. There were some real no-nos this week and some great examples of the issues many of us have when dating.
Key takeaways from this episode:
Why fake it ‘til you make it doesn't work in dating Become rejection-proof Don’t take things personally When women lead with sex Dating multiple peopleConfidence or Overcompensation? [2:19]
Marni and Chris break down how Demi’s obnoxiousness is probably a cover-up for her low self-worth, keeping in mind that the producers may have prodded her to stir up some trouble. They think Tammy is displaying real confidence but she may enjoy getting attention from drama.
Marni shares an observation from her years of experience coaching clients — Many women believe they are confident and they are not meeting a man who is at their level.
When faking confidence it comes across that you are uncomfortable in your skin, and people feel it.
Demi led with sex, overtly kissing Brendan and making it well known she was interested in him physically. Brendan did a great job in telling her that he was exploring all of his options but to save face Demi talked poorly about him and called him a Player.
Marni says that yes, men want to have sex with you considering they think about sex every seven seconds but when you lead with sex what vibe are you giving off? If you make yourself available sexually it does not increase your opportunities with men. Chris says it is not attractive for a woman to make it clear she is interested in sex over and over. A great sexual connection does not mean you are made for each other.
Become Rejection-Proof [20:03]
If you have a great date with a guy, give things a chance to unfold. If you don't hear from a guy for a couple of days there are some dignified things you can do to reach out, but remember it was just one date.
People date other people, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Don’t take it personally.
Rejection is not personal. It is just that you and the other person are not a match. Be the person you want to attract, don’t take things personally, and you will become rejection-proof. Chris adds, that once you are rejection-proof you probably won't get rejected because it is so sexy.
Everyone wants to be loved for who they are if they are emotionally available and want to be in a relationship.
Ladies, it is fine to date more than one person at once. There is no shame in it. If a guy asks if you are dating other people, respond with kindness and honesty. You can not screw up a new relationship with the right guy.
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