#106 - How to Stay Out of Sexual Debt

The early stages of marriage are one of the most difficult phases because it is the period of adjustment for both of you.  You must learn to understand your partner's physical, emotional and sexual rhythms, attitudes, and decisions because marriage is all about compromise. Communicating about sex is also a crucial part because if you become self-centered and allow your emotions to handle certain situations, you may find yourself in sexual debt.

Sexual debt creates an impact on your marriage and every aspect of your life. Sexually indebted individuals believe that there’s nothing wrong within themselves and that their spouse is compelled to gratify their selfish sexual desires. Instead of being sexually indebted, invest your sexuality in a selfless way that yields a feeling of gratitude and wholeness as a “return on your investment”.

There is nothing wrong with being indebted as long as you're indebted in a healthy way where you genuinely appreciate your marriage and the love you have together, which gives you the motivation to be the best person you can be for your spouse.

In Episode 106, Andrew and Benjy discuss all of this, as well as the impact of porn addiction on someone’s life. 

Listen to learn more!

Shownotes:

What is selfish sex? [3:35] How can couples overcome the most difficult conflict in marriage [7:46] The significance of communication in a relationship [8:49] The difference between being sexually indebted and being indebted in a healthy way [10:35] What is sexual debt? [12:15] How porn addiction can affect your life [14:22]

Click HERE for the show transcript.