The Lies We Have Been Told with Areva Martin

Do you often feel like you need to follow the standards and expectations set by other people in order to be successful?

Women have always been fed lies and expectations that are set by society, their workplace, or by men. Women should work harder, do this, and do that– these are the key principles that affect and limit women. To acknowledge and understand these lies is what will set you free to grow as a business leader and as a woman. The world will feed you toxic lies but it is up to you to recognize them and create solutions individually or collectively. To be a woman and to be a leader is already a power in your own unique way. Are you ready to share it with the world?

Areva Martin is an award-winning civil rights attorney, advocate, social issues commentator, talk shows host, and producer. A CNN legal analyst and Harvard Law School graduate, Martin founded Martin & Martin, LLP, a Los Angeles-based civil rights firm, and is the CEO of Butterfly Health, Inc., a mental health technology company. A best-selling author, Martin has dedicated her fourth book, Awakening: Ladies, Leadership, and the Lies We’ve Been Told, to helping women worldwide recognize, own, and assert their limitless power.

In this episode, Areva talks about why recognizing the lies is important in breaking the stigma and expectation set by society, our workplace, or even the people around us. She also shares some of the common lies and narratives that people expect from women and how recognizing them is a way of healing.

 

What you will learn from this episode:

Discover how recognizing and calling out the lies and issues is your step to awakening the leader in you Learn why you should first understand the situation you are in to get the right solutions Understand how healing and growth can come from this recognition

 

“What I wanted women to do was to first acknowledge it, to open their eyes to it, and start that healing process. You start to, quite frankly, recognize that you are enough.”

- Areva Martin

 

Valuable Free Resource:

Learn how to acknowledge the lies and awaken the girl boss within you: https://arevamartin.com/

 

Topics Covered:

01:45 - You can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge: why it is important to first understand and recognize the lies before anything else

02:46 - Work harder, keep your head down, and accept more assignments are just some of the lies women have been told

03:37 - Recognition is the key step to starting the healing process and recognizing that you are more than enough

04:35 - Understanding the situation as individual women leaders or as a collective and coming together to create solutions: What you can do to overcome the closed door and welcome new changes

05:48 - Facing the lies and the stigma: How looks, color, and ethnicity do actually matter in the workplace and how these standards aren’t issues for men

07:20 - Ripping out the narrative and painting over it: How the predominant narrative of expecting women to do more drove Areva into writing her fourth book

08:31 - Acknowledging and changing the lies, expectations, and misconceptions that society have about women– not as a movement against men, but as a movement for change

10:08 - Q: One of the biggest lies that every woman at every stage in her career was told? A: You can't have it all, that you have to make a binary choice between having a career or having children. There's not a day that goes by that I don't talk to a woman who's either confronted that or feels as if that's a decision there in the midst of making right now in their careers.

 

Key Takeaways:

“Start to examine what lies they've been told in their own life and how those lies have shaped and impacted their careers and what they want to do differently.” - Areva Martin

“You can't really fix what you don't acknowledge.” - Areva Martin

“I wanted women to know that they are enough. And then in most cases, they are doing enough. And it's not what they are doing or not doing, it's that they're trying to lean into a closed door.” - Areva Martin

“We're not told is that so many decisions are made about how far you go in the workplace have nothing to do with how hard you work or your work ethic. It has more to do with relationships. It has to do with, oftentimes, unspoken things that are happening deals that are being cut in rooms where women often aren't included.” - Areva Martin

“It really is not a one-size-fits-all. You know, that's not how this works. This is about understanding the situation that we are all in as women, and then coming together to create solutions.” - Areva Martin

“I would hope that after someone reads this book is that they start to examine what lies they've been told in their own life and how those lives have shaped and impacted their careers and what they want to do differently.” - Areva Martin

 

Ways to Connect with Areva Martin:

Website: https://arevamartin.com/

 

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