The links between people pleasing, trauma and narcissists.

I met Michele many years ago, we are both trained coaches and Master Practitioners of NLP, when we were both assistants on Dr Richard Bandler's NLP courses. Since then we have both gone in different directions and Michele is now a highly experienced trauma informed therapist. She is trained by Gabor Maté in Compassionate Inquiry, Dr Richard Schwartz in Internal Family systems as well as a hypnotherapist and coach.

Michele came to specialise in narcissism through wanting to understand more about her own behaviours and experiences. She is an expert in knowing about narcissism in all its various guises so was the ideal person to ask how narcissism fits in with childhood trauma and how that can result in becoming a people pleaser. 

She clarifies how the role of being a people pleaser serves someone but can then hinder them later in life. She also explains the difference between a narcissist and having a narcissistic personality disorder as well as the various types of narcissist that can hide in plain sight.