There is nothing that the power of the resurrection cannot redeem in your life. - Fr. Shawn Monahan
Summary
What do we do with the wounds we carry, especially in marriage? In this powerful episode, Fr. Shawn Monahan shares a trauma-informed vision of spirituality that meets us in our real stories. We’re all wounded, some more deeply than others, and healing begins with honest self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and inviting Christ into our pain. Fr. Shawn explains how our desires are shaped for good, how sin is seeking that good in the wrong ways, and why shame keeps us stuck. Christianity isn’t behavior management. It’s transformation through relationship. You’ll also hear practical wisdom for forgiveness, vulnerability, and praying with your spouse. If you’re longing for renewal and lasting peace, this conversation offers real hope. Check out his free workshop, “The Path to Healing Our Broken Hearts.” Link below!
Key Takeaways
We need a trauma-informed spirituality.
Everyone carries wounds. Some are deeper than others. The Church must recognize this reality and respond with compassion, emotional awareness, and an understanding of how early experiences shape us.
Healing begins with self-knowledge and self-acceptance.
By becoming aware of our reactions and emotions, we grow in self-understanding. This allows us to accept ourselves and become a true gift to others.
Desire is good, but it can be distorted.
God gives good spiritual desires, and our human desires are also good. Sin happens when we pursue those good desires in the wrong ways.
Shame blocks healing, but Christ redeems wounds.
Christianity is about transformation through relationship, not behavior management. Nothing is beyond the power of the Resurrection.
Forgiveness and vulnerability are essential in relationships.
Forgiveness is a grace-filled choice, not a feeling. Real healing in marriage requires empathy, honest listening, asking “Will you forgive me?”, and the courage to be vulnerable.
Couple Discussion Questions
When you think about your own wounds, how do they show up in our marriage?
Share one area where past hurts or early experiences may affect your reactions, fears, or desires. What helps you feel safe enough to open up about those places?
What would forgiveness or vulnerability look like for us right now?
Is there anything unspoken between us that needs to be brought into the light? How can we listen with empathy, ask “Will you forgive me?”, and invite Jesus into that space together?
FREE virtual workshop with Fr. Shawn: https://www.omvusa.org/our-work/virtual-workshops/path-healing-broken-hearts/
