Are you struggling with the decision whether or not to have children? If you are feeling pressured to make a choice, based on someone else's feelings, you will benefit from listening to today's guest, Karin Rahbek, author of "Do I Have To Be A Mother? A Childfree Woman's Honest and Unspoken Thoughts and Feelings." Karin's hope is that this book will help other childfree women to understand and accept their feelings and be happy in who they are (and not focussed on the mother they could have been).
Karin spent several years looking for precisely the book that she ended up writing for herself. The book describes in a potent and personal manner, the thoughts and feelings that are associated with not wanting to have children at all, in a society that views motherhood as the most natural part of being a woman.
It is Karin's hope that by reading and talking openly about the doubts felt by other women, that women can become more honest with one another. She intends to help make the decision about motherhood less fraught with taboo. Listen in today - this is such an emotive topic!
“You define your own femininity and feel beautiful and valuable and loved as the woman you are and not the mother you could be.”
Today, Karin talks to Michelle about:
Her choice to not have a child, even with the pressure of family and friends, who were all becoming parents. “The feeling that motherhood is not for me has been with me for as long as I can remember.” How Karin's book came out of some deep thinking about motherhood and the different facets involved in making this kind of choice. Karin notes:” I didn't know any parents who actually had a life I would want to swap for." (Very thought-provoking). The difficulty in making a choice contrary to that of most of the people in your life, with all the pressure that goes with that, to conform. Karin says: “Yes, it definitely takes courage to choose a life without children.” How many women feel pressured to have a child, even after having previously made it clear that they have no desire to be a mother. Karin says: “When you say that you don't want a child, many people hear you say 'I don't want a child right now'.” She highlights: if it's the man's choice not to have children, they often get the same type of pressure to conform.Links:
Karin's site www.childfreewoman.com
Karin's book is available from Amazon at http://tinyurl.com/lcpvsfb
I do hope you enjoyed this episode. It's fascinating to hear perspectives from various countries and cultures to understand what the differences AND the similarities are, no matter where you are in the world.
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