Flourishing Family Model with Manuela Berger from Geneva, Switzerland
Manuela developed this model during her Positive Psychology Masters.
The principles of this model can be applied to family dynamics as well as any social group of people. The model aims to shift momentum and dynamics in a family, for the better. Flourishing Family Model (FFM) is a 3 tiered visual model, illustrated using circles.
Inner Circle: beliefs and awareness of these beliefs
What are the thoughts behind unconscious beliefs? Are these thoughts true? How do beliefs influence the way we act? Becoming aware of thoughts and beliefs that aren’t useful in order to change them. Becoming aware of self-fulfilling prophecies - beliefs projected onto us by others, which we then subconsciously internalise, giving them life and a false sense of truth, moving away from our true selves
Middle Circle: Self determination theory; all humans have 3 basic psychological needs
These needs are interconnected/inter-dependent, therefore they need to receive equal attention in order for an individual to feel fully self-supported. 1. Autonomy: engaging with others and things through choices that are in alignment with our values, interests, personal integrity. 2. Relatedness: feeling connected and accepted; sense of belonging through feeling cared for. Feeling respected and in turn able to behave respectfully towards others, from a place of authenticity. 3. Competence: stepping into one’s personal power; feeling empowered. Having the confidence to influence a situation, therefore developing willingness to take action or initiative. (ie. providing a safe space for a child to grow; not rushing them when learning to tie a shoelace).
Outer Circle: Emotional Intelligence
Are there unpleasant emotions (driven by beliefs) that exist? These show up in behaviour patterns, and can be addressed through enquiry into the beliefs that fuel these emotions. The more we meet the emotional needs of others, the more positive reactions we will experience.Qualities present in a flourishing family
Each individual feels they can be themselves. Family members feel connected to each other. Family members easily identify unhelpful beliefs; these are highlighted in cases of extreme reactivity to a situation.
Contact Manuela
For further information on the FFM, or for personal coaching, www.manualaberger.com
