Am I the only person who was the best, most knowledgable parent in the world, before I had kids? It’s funny how experience is a great and humbling teacher.
I wanted to share something, a way of thinking, that has been very helpful as a parent and I’m hoping you can take it and use it.
The idea is not sacrificing the long term for the short term. What does that mean?
For example, my children eat too much junk food for my liking. And every time their grand parents give them junk food I get a visceral reaction to it. I don’t believe my response is correct; I want to tell them (passionately) that it’s unhealthy and they shouldn’t eat it. But then I think, if I do that, what would be the long term affect of that action over time? My answer - probably a negative emotional association to food - A very bad problem to have.
My simple point - be conscious of the big things that you want your children to learn from you and don’t let the ‘in the moment things’ get in the way.
-Dr. Kresimir Jug